Relationships And Teamwork Go Together

"Teamwork is the ability to work together toward a common vision. The ability to direct individual accomplishments toward organizational objectives. It is the fuel that allows common people to attain uncommon results."

Before I ended up living with the woman that would become my wife, I had always had a singular life. And I mean singular in the aspect of doing things alone (i.e. Goals, Working, Dreaming). But now that I'm no longer single, I've had to take stock of the fact that everything that I do going forward must be done with my wife, and that any progress that I hope to make in my life must be done so with her. At first I simply tried to adjust to the belief that I was going to have to carry my wife and that she would be a drag on any progress that I wanted to make. But over time, my view has changed because I realize that even though I worked very hard to bring her to California, I didn't do it alone. She helped and did her part as well... and it’s only because she did her part that we are together now. We worked as a team and we've completed so very much in our desire to be together. I've come to the realization that I can accomplish so much more in my life because she is in my life. It's called TEAMWORK... and I came to this realization yesterday and over the weekend. I realized that whenever I go out and do things, I don't like doing it alone because I feel lonely and sometimes I sense she feels left out. And I realized that when my wife feels left out of something her mood changes and she gets emotional. In the beginning, I felt overwhelmed by her always wanting to be around me, but as time went on, I came to realize that what I was feeling was normal for someone that has spent all his time living alone.

I've seen the light so to speak that once you're in a committed relationship with someone and you share your life with that person; the voyage or journey you both have decided to take must be headed in the same direction. It's hard to make progress in life if I'm heading in one direction and she is going in another... it’s also harder if the resources within that relationship are being utilized the wrong way. Women have needs, and men have needs. I understand the difference now between dating and being in a serious relationship because I'm living with that person. Before we were like ships just coming into port every few months, but now the situation is different. Over the past few months, I've come to realize that if I provide my wife with what she needs & desire within this relationship she will be willing to do the same for me... and we’ll be happier and things will begin to move along quite nicely.

Teamwork is a relationship and a partnership that can bring so much wealth and progress to our lives. It was hard to motivate myself to get serious about my career, education, creative aspirations (music & voice acting); because my resources were focused on living alone and bringing my wife to this country. But now that we are together, I sense that if we are both working on the same elements together we can do marvelous things.