Loving Unconditionally

I've loved a lot of different people in my life, I've fallen in love but I've never actually fallen out of love with anyone. I developed an ideal of simply believing that everyone that has entered into my life deserves to be loved unconditionally no matter what they've done to me. There is a belief that I hold very true to in my life and that is that everyone that I've met in my life was put into my life for the purpose of learning something from them that might contribute to my becoming a strong and more effective human being. However, that doesn't mean that I don't have walls and obstacles placed in my heart and mind to protect myself from people who knowingly or unknowingly might become detrimental to my life. I'm simply saying that everyone that has touched my heart and mind have been beneficial in way or another to my growth in life. Recently one of my ex-girlfriends decided to cut me out of her life because her husband didn't want her talking to me; I wasn't upset by her decision but I did ask myself why did that woman feel it was important to follow the wishes of her husband even if nothing inappropriate was occurring. Yes, I still love her and I want the best for her and her family... however, there is a feeling that still lingers in the back of my mind that maybe the reason she decided to stop communicating with me had very little to do with her husband and more so to do with the fact that we were talking about personal issues in her own life that she was unwilling to deal with that were becoming an ongoing problem. But either way, I understand the reasons she gave me and I've decided to respect them, even though I know somehow she'll find a way to communicate with me in the future.

People find a level of comfort hiding behind the shroud of denial and fear, because often times they've become comfortable with the notion that its that fear and denial that keeps them safe from being hurt. However, the drawback is that they simply continue to ignore the issues that hinder them from moving forward and being happy. Yet, I know that people generally just have a fear of LOVE... maybe they don't love themselves enough or even know how to love themselves. I'm always open to helping people and trying my best to express my love and feelings for the people in my life. Because I want people in my life to know how important and special they are to me... I want them to know that I LOVE THEM for who they are no matter if they don't love themselves the same way in return. But I know that people in general just have a fear of LOVE... I see and hear it everyday people trying to hide their imperfections with clothes, drugs, sex, excessive working, and mental illness. It's like people are screaming to be loved, yet they held captive by their own fears, denials, and sometimes insecurities. In fact, I'd go even further that sometimes I sense that people just want to view themselves as evil and unworthy of love because they are simply unwilling to accept the fact that there might be someone in this world that actually gives a damn about them. It can be rather contradictory, to hate yourself yet want to be loved and wanted. Or to know that you're loved and choose not to believe it, or to want to be treated Good and Wonderful by someone and yet push them away because you're afraid of being hurt.

People have to stop questioning everything all the time, and start finding a way to accept people into their lives who simply want to love them as a friend, relative, or even a coworker. People have to stop being so suspicious of people, and more than anything else people have to stop allowing their own fears and denials to keep them trapped behind closed doors. Yes, people do hide themselves away from others simply because they are afraid to be loved, or even because they don't feel they are worthy of being loved or accepted. And yes, people still find a way to hide themselves away because they don't want to find the meaning of simply being HAPPY. We can't always help everyone that we cross paths with, and we can't always force them to see things our way, but we can choose to let them know in our own way that we love them and accept them. We all aren't perfect, we all don't have a single reason to judge another person, and we all don't have a reason to deny anyone the right to be loved or accepted. We can become better at expressing our feelings and hearts to others, even strangers that we don't know and may never see again.

The people that I care about the most in this world should know without any hesitation or doubts that I love them no matter what they do or say.

I LOVE YOU!